Friday, July 8, 2011

Engaged Indifference — An Oxymoron? NO.

Suddenly, everywhere I look I find words and phrases similar to detachment, distraction, letting go, describing ways to decrease stress, reduce negative self-talk, and improve problem-solving thinking.  New Resilience, by Douglas LaBier Ph.D., a Psychology Today blogger, uses the term engaged indifference as a way of dealing with difficult people, a boss in particular. It's not avoidance. It's not emotionality or problem-solving or cognitive restructuring. Engaged indifference instead helps us to move on to enlarged problem-solving and less underwhelming emotion.

I also like LaBier's article because it demonstrates that we need to keep building, expanding, trying out different ways to stay calm so we can be most effective and take good care of ourselves. It's all in the realm of human survival. The better skills you have, the more versatile you are in using them, the greater are your chances of laughing at all the stuff that's thrown at you some days or months.

Here's the link: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-new-resilience/201107/dealing-abusive-bosses-and-unhealthy-management-part-2
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