Cognitive Restructuring — Change What You're Saying to Yourself

Here's a simple and significant question to ask yourself as you head into the weekend.  When you feel stressed at home — kids grouchy, too much to do, friends for dinner, partner unhelpful, weeds overtaking the yard, no food in the house — notice whether your stress is due to an external stressor (outside demands) 

OR

to an internal stressor (inside demands) from your inner critic.

E.g.

"What's wrong with me? I am s-o-o disorganized."

"I'm really a bitchy Mom. I should be much more patient."

"Stupid to invite people  over for dinner when I'm such a lousy cook."

If it's inside stuff, substitute something else benign for now.

E.g.

" I can do this. One step at a time."

"Take a 2 minute time out self — a few deep breaths."

"Slow down, cool down, you're OK."