Do you daydream — anymore? Since childhood? Do you remember other times when life was gentler, simpler and you had time for drifting off? Are you a person who thinks daydreaming is a waste of time or a lazy, distraction from important thinking? Or do you find it valuable and productive — or at least relaxing?
Here's Wickipedia's basic definition.A daydream is a visionary fantasy especially one of happy, pleasant thoughts, hopes or ambitions, imagined as coming to pass, and experienced while awake. There are many types of daydreams, and there is no consistent definition amongst psychologists.
I also found use of the word daymare, attributed to Dickens, meaning a nightmare during a waking period of time instead of during sleep. In my thinking, a burst of negative self-talk could be classified as a daymare.
It seems like life has become so crazy busy that there's no time for spacing out. I'm all for it and believe the PT blogger, Josie Glausiuszwho wrote : "Daydreams are an inner world where we can rehearse the future and imagine new adventures without risk. Allowing the mind to roam freely can aid creativity—but only if we pay attention to the content of our daydreams."
From what we know about intuitive problem-solving, daydreaming will be helpful. I'm not sure I can still do it, but I'm going to try. Maybe it's also a form of psychological distancing.
It's the beginning of the third year of intelligentwomenonly.com I've started off with some retrospective posts as a reminder to me and you that this blog started out focused on understanding and eliminating negative self-talk. Not surprising since my current book project is Handbook #l for Intelligent Women: Break the Negative Self-Talk Habit. Strong beliefs underlie intelligentwomenonly.com posts: • Research based advice/suggestions/content contain more accurate facts and greater value than pop psychology. • Intelligent girls and women are more likely than intelligent boys and men to limit themselves because of their self-talk. • Negative self-talk is a bad habit, not a neurosis or psychosis. Unfortunately, it's normal in a majority of girls and women.
•The negative self-talk habit has to be eliminated before realistic (or positive thinking) can be learned and maintained. • Positive self-talk cannot create a positive reality even if the negative self-talk habit is broken. • Self-help approaches can work for changing thinking, feeling, and behavioral habits. In the next nine months of 2012, I would love to be able to tell you that the book will be published this year or next. In the meantime I've become intrigued with new brain research about thinking and emotions, particularly applicable and useful for and to women. I'll post no more about gender differences, unless they're wildly interesting, and more about intelligent women's psychology, thinking, feelings, and out front actions. I've added a new red subject box, Writers and Writing, targeted specifically for writers, of course!
I'm still looking for some controversy, disagreement, new information from readers. I'm open to your thoughts about what you'd like to hear more about — or less about! Please send me your comments, suggestions, questions, criticisms — all of you intelligent women out there!